360 remote is difficult to use

Is anyone else struggling with these horrid new remotes?

I am a 70 year old pensioner with arthritic hands. I find the remote very difficult to use because:

1. It is so thin and light I keep dropping it, the old remote fit in my hand and had some weight to stabilise it.

2 the buttons are so flat and close together I find it difficult to get the correct one, the old remote had nice raised buttons that were better spaced. 

3 why do so many functions need looking for in menus instead of easily accessed from the remote?  Eg, clear, stop, delete.

I imagine the answer, as ever, is cost. These new remotes seem very cheap and cheerful but are not really suited to people like myself, who were probably not considered, only the bottom line.