Although VM can't offer any official support for you using your own router, there is nothing inherent about it that means the V6 shouldn't work - although you're at the mercy of your router. Many on here, myself included, connect our V6 via our own router and SH in modem mode - and the V6 works perfectly well.
I suspect you unwittingly have some ports blocked, that's the usual cause.
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