Hi wasdale32
Sorry to hear of the email issues regarding your wifes iPhone, we appreciate you raising this via the forums and welcome to the community.
Can you ensure the settings for email with the handset are as follows please:
Incoming settings:
imap.virginmedia.com
SSL yes
Port 993
Outgoing settings:
smtp.virginmedia.com
SSL yes
Port 465
Authentication ‘Password’
Username is the full email address, Password self explanatory. Ensure the username & password is also added under the smtp server details. It may be related to what Graham_A has advised also. Please let us know if this helps.
Rob