@Neal2 In normal circumstances the Primary username (email) will be the one you use to log into your My Virgin Media account. Once logged in you should be able to change passwords for the Primary account and any secondary accounts that are set up on your account. The password for the secondary account should be different to that used for the primary account.
However, it sounds as if your account has got into a bit of a tangle and you will probably need Forum Staff assistance to help you unravel what is happening. They should respond to this thread shortly.
You should be able to find out what primary username the system has for you via the following link:
virgin-media-reset-username-and-password select the forgot virgin media username option.
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